{"id":29143,"date":"2025-09-28T21:10:28","date_gmt":"2025-09-29T01:10:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/anchorwind.net\/2\/?p=29143"},"modified":"2025-09-28T21:19:09","modified_gmt":"2025-09-29T01:19:09","slug":"dear-diary-of-grief-and-attachment","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/anchorwind.net\/2\/dear-diary-of-grief-and-attachment\/","title":{"rendered":"Dear Diary, Of Grief and Attachment"},"content":{"rendered":"

Dear Diary, Of Grief and Attachment<\/p>\n

What do we do with grief once we\u2019ve processed the boots-on-the-ground reality?\u00a0 When we\u2019ve come to terms with what we\u2019ve lost, what isn\u2019t coming back, what do we do with that information?\u00a0 Grief is complicated from the standpoint of Mindfulness and Meditation, as an aspect of grief is anguish. One can be *very* present with their pain, and when trying to figure out what to do about pain here and now, grief can morph in the process of seeking an outlet \u2013 something I\u2019ve recently connected the dots with all too well.<\/p>\n

The Mindfulness portion of Mindfulness and Meditation becomes essential here.\u00a0 While we are in the present with our pain, trying to manage it, or at worst trying to keep the worst of it to ourselves, we may have become *too* good at being judgment-free in an almost ironic way.\u00a0 I\u2019m going to quote myself from November 2019:<\/p>\n

\u201cwhy do we hold on to this pain
\nwhat else do we need to learn
\nit is ok to let yesterday be yesterday
\nhave healing be today
\nand health be tomorrow\u201d (Alone Series 561 | Learn)<\/a><\/p>\n

The sorrowful aspect of grief is natural; we feel hurt by the loss of something important, whether it is a person, a memory, an opportunity, or something else of value.\u00a0 However, when sorrow turns to anguish, it is ok to ask ourselves what value that pain adds.\u00a0 Perhaps, at first, the pain serves as a fuel to seek a viable alternative, to pursue some form of adequate justice, to accomplish or complete something ourselves, or, in my case, to try to protect others from harm.\u00a0 Pain, though, is like a labyrinth; it is frustrating with no clear end in sight, and at some point, it is ok to ask ourselves why are we trying to navigate this at all.<\/p>\n

I recently wrote attachment to the past can merely consume capacity in the present.\u00a0 Grief is one such manner in which we remain attached to the past, and while there is no one-size-fits-all method of honoring the memory or value we mourn while not anguishing over it any longer, such a time comes for us all.\u00a0 For some, it may involve forgetting (even if involuntary) and moving on entirely, while for others, it may be akin to framing a portrait on the wall \u2013 visible but archived.\u00a0 For some, it may be more like a worry stone, something to touch and put away; for others, it may be a star in the night sky \u2013 a symbolic gesture that the best parts of the memories may still offer guidance or hope.<\/p>\n

Whatever our level of attachment is, when grief transitions from sorrow to anguish and (mostly) stays there, it is ok to apply some self-judgment, to ask some questions why we suffer so.\u00a0 For me, looking at the things I anguish over, so few of them are actually my fault.\u00a0 Even one of the big sticking points for me, my role overseas, I think I can be more compassionate toward.\u00a0 I\u2019ve long held a view I was a coward and others suffered for it; I didn\u2019t have the moral fortitude to stand up to the system, cease participating, and accept the consequences.\u00a0 However, I was very young, and the preceding situation when I did try to stand up for myself was met with strong resistance and turmoil.\u00a0 I had not developed a strong individual identity until much later.\u00a0 It was immediately *after* some of those catastrophic overseas events I went on learning journeys, which helped me get to where I am now.\u00a0 Just as I couldn\u2019t save others I wanted to, it wasn\u2019t my fault; many of the decisions made were not mine to make.<\/p>\n

The process of sorrow, acceptance, and release is essential to learn.\u00a0 For me, I\u2019ve been on my own so much I\u2019m just used to being responsible for everything.\u00a0 Perhaps I took on too many responsibilities too young, and I kept adding more, because that is the reward for doing good work, after all \u2013 more work.\u00a0 Whatever the case may be, I think it\u2019s time for me to have fewer.\u00a0 I think it\u2019s time to put some portraits on the wall.<\/p>\n

Grief comes for us all, but we do not have to dwell lost in the labyrinth forever.\u00a0 Ask yourself why you suffer, and if you find the pain does not contribute in any meaningful way, seek a means to honor and let go.\u00a0 You are worth it.<\/p>\n

reBLUEvinate!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Dear Diary, Of Grief and Attachment What do we do with grief once we\u2019ve processed the boots-on-the-ground reality?\u00a0 When we\u2019ve come to terms with what we\u2019ve lost, what isn\u2019t coming back, what do we do with that information?\u00a0 Grief is complicated from the standpoint of Mindfulness and Meditation, as an aspect of grief is anguish. 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